I am sorry to tell you this but I have talked to several people and they all say Savannah HAS to have a lawyer to represent her in court. It is for all our sake that we do it this way. I was also told it is the adoptive parents to pay for it. John and I are as new at this as you are. We NEVER even wanted to think about our little girl being pregnant, let alone giving up her baby for adoption. So of course we had no idea what the adoption process is like.
I have also gotten the response that we should be much farther along than we are. In fact the adoption counselor said she is going to call me in a day or two to make sure I have a lawyer by then. She does not want me to put it off any longer. I did tell her about the lawyer just reading Savannah her rights and she said No, Savannah needs someone to go to court for her. If you want, I can see if she would be willing to answer any of your questions if you want to call her.
I was typing this when you wrote. I am glad all is going well over there, we just need to get this taken care of also. Please let us know ASAP K?
Much love,
Kerri
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She acts as if there are some SUPER SECRET RIGHTS that we will not let her know about... I wrote back the following "Go ahead and get your attorney and ask them what they need for a retainer. We will do whatever we have to
to come up with it. Tell us who the attorney is and we will bring them the retainer" She wrote back "K, I am off tomorrow and I will do that. Two people recommended Reese Verner here in Nampa. We are so very sorry. Our plans were to hand you over Skittles on a silver platter at no cost to you. I guess we were just in a dream world. I think we will all be thankful in the end that there were no glitches in any of this. I was told that usually adoptive parents have to pay legal fees, medical bills and the cost of using the adoption agency. So we did save you a little money. : {
We would love to get together with you and Dale. We better make it soon though because I really think Skittles will be here next month.
Lots of love,
Jesse
I am SO TIRED of everything she is pulling as far as I am concerned we are ending this friendship asap as the baby is ours. We did find out that it will be a week to 10 days to file adoption paperwork and a week to 10 days to finalize the adoption so that is good news. We are trying so hard to get through this please keep us in your prayers. The home study sounds like a bear they pry into your finances, health (you have to go to a Dr.) and inspect your home it sounds so overwhelming. Please please please keep us in your prayers!
BTW our Attorney said straight out they do not need a lawyer. She knows that.
That's all a big crock! She just is too stupid to understand you guys don't have the money, you'll do what she says... and there is no need for her to be represented by an attorney. I hate Rogain as well.. She'll pay.
Sure is not smart of her if she still wants to see this baby. I do not want her toxic personality in my life after this period. Plus I would hate to raise this boy and look like I lied his whole life by saying oh by the way you know our family friends you have known your whole life they are your grandparents... no they are not going to be in his life at all!
It's healthier that way. Good job. :-) I love you Beekie!
I agree that some serious distance needs to be put between you following the birth. Unfortunately you still have to walk a fine line for now, and you may have to taper things off slowly. Just be busy with the baby a lot. I Love you Beck. I have put your name in all of those temples and I will continue to. I had a Dr. apt. today. All is well with the babe, I have gained 30 pounds, (only 20 that he is aware of). I feel huge. I sure love you all. Becky you will be in my constant prayers. Take care.
Love Laurie
Hey Beck,
I'm so sorry to hear it's going to be more than you thought. Good luck with everything and I'll be keeping you in my prayers! I think you handed it well by saying go ahead with it, it might make the whole thing better in the end anyways. Remember that the Lord is in this with you and that everything will happen for your good. I bought a cute little outfit for Aarron Joshy! Love you,
mindy
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